A fairy tale-like- relationship, an impeccable romantic bond, is what most of us dream of having. Embracing this type of ideology about love and romance is somehow the inevitable effect of indulging oneself to romantic movies, teleseryes and even “too-good-to-be-true” novels. Guilty beyond reasonable doubt! But if truth be told, there is no such thing as “perfect relationships” nor “perfect couples” only “flourishing relationships/marriages” and “determined-to-be happy couples”. Yes, reality bites indeed!
In a month time, Rowel and I will celebrate our fourth year of happy marriage! Wow! It’s quite surprising how time flies. Anyhow, most of the people whom we are closely associated with labeled us as “a happy/awesome/sweetest/lovely couple” and attached perfection to our relationship. However, little did they know, we also have had our fair share of heartaches and struggles over the years of being a couple. Truly, pursuing a happy marriage is not a ‘bed of roses’ as every relationship will be put to tests, every couple will have to deal with differences and every marriage is a work-in-progress.
Rowel and I are truly grateful that we were able to faithfully hurdle the difficulties and withstand the trials that we encountered these past years. We are aware that we will still experience more of those… In fact, there are times that our subtle minds carry us into the realm of apprehension and perplexity of life especially when we seriously think of what the future has in store for us. Nonetheless, knowing that ours is an eternal companionship and that God will not give us ordeals beyond our capacity to surmount gives us comfort and assurance that happiness will still not be foreign to us. We know that trials, if triumphantly overcome, will only make our relationship an unbreakable bond!
It has been often said that none of us is alike as each of us is uniquely designed to fulfill certain purposes in life. Peradventure, being a complement to one of God’s creations (particularly the opposite sex) could be one of those reasons. Rowel and I are totally different in many ways. Viewpoint, family background, professional quests, attitude and language are but a few of the differences that we have had to deal with as a couple. However, we always strive to see things positively and do not allow our dissimilarities to ruin our marriage. In fact, it surprises me how our differences not only make us complete but also help us develop a colorful relationship! 🙂
A wedding does “not guarantee’ a together-forever union. It is only a ceremony that will commence your journey towards that path of a lifetime or even infinity as marriages need firm commitment and incessant effort to make it a reality. If the couple wants to be together forever, they should pledge and toil to pay the price of it whenever. Fiery love, steadfast loyalty, boundless forbearance, unwavering trust and most importantly God-centered bond are necessary to have a thriving marriage that will perhaps lead your matrimony to that time called “eternity”! Hence, having a happy marriage or relationship is achievable only if this is your continuous goal; for as long as we are on earth, it will always be a work-in-progress for us all.
We may have put some couples on a pedestal because they have seemingly portrayed our ultimate dream to have a fairy-tale-like love story, perfect! But is it not an overstatement to attach perfection to any relationship(s)? A dream it is! Faithfully overcoming trials, patiently accepting differences and continuously fulfilling commitments are contributing factors to have a happy married life! Is it not surreal? A reality it is! LOVE LOVE LOVE